Befriending Silence

Now, Carl McColman offers the first practical introduction to this ancient, contemplative spirituality for all people.


Author: Carl McColman

Publisher: Ave Maria Press

ISBN: 9781594716164

Category: Religion

Page: 192

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Winner of the 2016 Georgia Author of the Year: Inspirational-religious books. Respected speaker, author, and Patheos blogger Carl McColman introduces Cistercian spirituality as "the hidden jewel of the Church," presenting a surprisingly contemporary path grounded in monastic tradition. This accessible and comprehensive guide highlights a unique focus on simplicity, living close to the earth, and contemplative prayer, all of which make Cistercian spirituality relevant today. Steeped in chant and silence, grounded in down-to-earth work and service, and immersed in the mystical wisdom of teachers ancient (Bernard of Clairvaux) and modern (Thomas Merton), Cistercian spirituality's beautifully humble path has for centuries made monasteries places of rest, retreat, and renewal. Now, Carl McColman offers the first practical introduction to this ancient, contemplative spirituality for all people. Hailed by reviewers of his many books as playful, and profound, McColman draws on his experience as a lay Cistercian to provide insight into the relevance of the tradition to contemporary issues and spiritual practice. He explains how silence, simplicity, stability, stewardship of the earth, contemplation, ongoing conversion, and devotion to Mary combine to offer a rich and unique path to discipleship and intimacy with God.

Women Choosing Silence

Suggesting that silenced women can find wholeness in befriending silence-based prayer, Harris states 'Silence before the Mystery which holds us and ...


Author: Alison Woolley

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 9781351273589

Category: Religion

Page: 284

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Silence is long-established as a spiritual discipline amongst people of faith. However, its examination tends to focus on depictions within texts emerging from religious life and the development of its practices. Latterly, feminist theologians have also highlighted the silencing of women within Christian history. Consequently, silence is often portrayed as a solitary discipline based in norms of male monastic experience or a tool of women’s subjugation. In contrast, this book investigates chosen practices of silence in the lives of Christian women today, evidencing its potential for enabling profound relationality and empowerment within their spiritual journeys. Opening with an exploration of Christianity’s reclamation of practices of silence in the twentieth century, this contemporary ethnographic study engages with wider academic conversations about silence. Its substantive theological and empirical exploration of women’s practices of silence demonstrates that, for some, silence-based prayer is a valued space for encounter and transformation in relationships with God, with themselves and with others. Utilising a methodology that proposes focusing on silence throughout the qualitative research process, this study also illustrates a new model for depicting relational change. Finally, the book urges practical and feminist theologians to re-examine silence’s potential for facilitating the development of more authentic and responsible relationality within people’s lives. This is a unique study that provides new perspectives on practices of silence within Christianity, particularly amongst women. It will, therefore, be of significant interest to academics, practitioners and students in theology and religious studies with a focus on contemporary religion, spirituality, feminism, gender and research methods.

Spirituality for Extroverts

"I have been awareof the placeof silence at different timesand in various ways ... Florida, found that befriending silence has made her a more effective ...


Author: Nancy Reeves

Publisher: Abingdon Press

ISBN: 9780687650743

Category: Religion

Page: 144

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Does prayer have to be silent? Does meditation have to be solemn? If I'm an extrovert, can I worship God? In this groundbreaking book, psychologist and spiritual adviser Nancy Reeves presents a refreshing view of spirituality that goes beyond personality to provide extroverts (and those who love them) with exciting new ways of approaching God. Reeves explores a wide variety of spiritual practices for extroverts, including: Praying in motion Singing Cultivating spiritual friendships Practicing spirituality in groups In the end, she urges all of us, extrovert and introvert alike, to seek a mature spirituality that embraces all the aspects of our personalities. Includes questions for reflection and discussion. Perfect for book clubs, discussion groups, and bible study classes. "For some reason, we think of quiet, introverted people as the very name of holiness. This cannot be true, and Nancy Reeves shows us why!" -Richard Rohr, author of Things Hidden: Scripture as Spirituality "I've been waiting a long time to read a book like this! Nancy Reeves provides much needed insight and guidance." -Joyce Rupp, author of Fresh Bread: And Other Gifts of Spiritual Nourishment "As an introvert, I found Reeves' perspectives eye-opening and enormously helpful. They will change the way I interact with the extroverts in my life. This book should be required reading for anyone offering spiritual guidance." -Marjorie J. Thompson, author of Soul Feast: An Invitation to the Christian Spiritual Life Nancy Reeves is a clinical psychologist, spiritual director, poet, and author. She is director of the Island Loss Clinic, teaches at the University of Victoria, and conducts many lectures and workshops internationally. She is the author of A Match Made in Heaven: A Bible-Based Guide to Deepening Your Relationship with God and I'd Say Yes, God, If I Knew What You Wanted.

Awaken Your Senses

eMBRACIng solItuDe, BefRIenDIng sIlenCe For whatever reason, we often experience resistance when it comes to listening attentively to God's voice within our ...


Author: J. Brent Bill

Publisher: InterVarsity Press

ISBN: 9780830869602

Category: Religion

Page: 208

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Perhaps you've been missing out. God has given us five senses and a brain with two sides. Yet we often approach God in one way only: through words that are analyzed and processed logically in our left brain. The right brain, however, is the creative, intuitive center--the place that connects most to our seeing, smelling, touching, tasting and hearing, and that roots experiences in our hearts in transforming ways. In Awaken Your Senses, longtime ministers Beth Booram and Brent Bill invite you to engage your right brain in your faith through sensory spiritual practices that position your heart for divine encounter. Readings and a variety of exercises that utilize your whole body lead you to experience God in new ways by tasting chocolate, words, matzoh, Scripture, forgiveness seeing the moon, wisdom, art, glory, your best self touching others, stones, prayers, rubble, Jesus hearing silence, music, pain, footsteps, the Spirit, the news smelling gardenias, life, salty air, home, healing oil, coffee Teaching you to pay attention in love to your surroundings, Booram and Bill will help you open your eyes and ears and nose to a sensuous faith--one in which God can be experienced each day as we live and move and have our being. So whether you're weary, stuck, struggling, growing or on information-overload, the exercises and reflections offered here can bring refreshment--a cold drink of water, a gentle breeze--to your soul. Come experience God with all of who you are, and discover more of who he is.

Walking Shoes a Soul Journey

Through silence, we befriend our fears, our anger, our greed and experience our own death and resurrection. By befriending silence, according to theologian ...


Author: Michael Tracey

Publisher: iUniverse

ISBN: 9780595257645

Category: Body, Mind & Spirit

Page: 176

View: 633

All journeys are journeys of encounter with the Lord who walks with us in the cool of the evening. Sometimes they are deadly silent; other times they are full of travail. But all times, no matter what the occasion or circumstance, they are journeys with rather than against; journeys to rather than from; journeys indwelling rather than dissipating. Any journey demands both a challenge and a risk; an act of faith in what is to come because of the assurance of what is past. Yet, the challenge and risk always leads to a homecoming. And the journey home is always shorter and full of special memories because it embodies the reality of a happy ending. A journey is an exercise in discovery; discovery of latent talents; opportune moments and the creative ability to fashion the tapestry of one’s life under the guidance of the Master Weaver. This book is a journal of life weaved from the fabric of people’s lives. Their hearts are stories of strength and weakness, heroism and heartbreak yet, woven together with hope. It is a sacramentality of life, love and living. May your journey be the same but different.


silence is nothing more than the absence of noise. ... break the habit of using fillers is not to try to stop using them, but instead befriending silence.


Author: Thomas Gelmi

Publisher: iUniverse

ISBN: 9781532071287

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 204

View: 453

Managers, employees, and customers meet in the limited space of an aircraft. They interact and encounter conflicts such as those found in other areas of the world of work. How the interaction takes place strongly depends on the skills and performance of the cabin crew, who at best must anticipate and de-escalate challenges and at worst solve them immediately and without help from the outside. This calls for the highest level of personal and interpersonal competence—with all the consequences. So what can managers and employees learn from the setting on board? Each chapter begins with exciting real-life stories that happened at a certain latitude and longitude and an altitude of thirty thousand feet. The reader directly recognizes parallels to his or her life, tracks down problems faster in the future, and finds new solutions. If you want to increase your professional and personal effectiveness, this book is a must-read for you.

Kill the Killers Within

You can never climb the ladder of success, without befriending silence. Silence kills all the internal enemies, which keep your life average.


Author: Avin Isaac Dsouza

Publisher: Educreation Publishing


Category: Self-Help

Page: 153

View: 352

It is a common human tendency, that we blame the other persons, our circumstances, our family background, lack of qualification etc. for our failure to lead a successful life. We consider all these as our enemies. I too, often used to blame my outer conditions for my failures and used to feel helpless. Gradually, I realized that, there is not even single enemy of me outside. I realized that, my enemies are only found within me. These are the enemies cultivated by me, because of my ignorance. These enemies are so clever that, they disguise like friends, and try to kill me from becoming a person I should be. Your internal enemies are killing you, without your knowledge. As true to the title, this book will help you to kill all your internal enemies, and to befriend your internal friends. As you read this book, you will be able to identify many of your internal enemies and many of those enemies will die while reading this book itself. This book also will help you to turn your limitations into opportunities, and your weaknesses into strengths. You will start appreciating what you were criticizing before, and start criticizing what you were appreciating before. I believe that, whatever your life may be, you can change it for the better this very moment.

Answering the Contemplative Call

Befriending silence is not the same thing as becoming hostile to sound. It merely means opening up a space in your life where all that silence ...


Author: Carl McColman

Publisher: Hampton Roads Publishing

ISBN: 9781571746771

Category: Religion

Page: 168

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The mystical path is not some sort of static experience for the select few, says Carl McColman, rather, it is a living tradition, a rich and many-layered dimension of spirituality that is in large measure a quest to find the mysteries at the heart of the universe, paradoxically nestled within the heart of your own soul. McColman first introduced readers to Christianity's lost mystical roots in his popular book, The Big Book of Christian Mysticism. Now McColman is back with Answering the Contemplative Call, to show readers how to apply the riches of the mystical tradition to daily living. This book is organized in three sections: "Recognizing the Call," Explores how each one of us is called to the mystical life, and what that might look like. "Preparing for the Journey," shows what we need to do in response to the contemplative call."Embarking on the Adventure" considers what those first steps on the path might look like. Along the way McColman quotes from the great mystics of the Christian tradition who have also traveled this path, including Teresa of Avila, Thomas Merton, Evelyn Underhill and more. In Answering the Contemplative Call, McColman offers a practice that will help readers come to a place meaning and purpose in their lives.

The Counseling Skills Practice Manual

Could silence have been productively used earlier in the interview? ... For some of us, silence is simply frightening, so the task of befriending silence ...


Author: David Hutchinson

Publisher: SAGE Publications

ISBN: 9781483342580

Category: Psychology

Page: 128

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The Counseling Skills Practice Manual is a practical guide for students who are working on improving their counseling skills. Designed as a companion to The Essential Counselor and its accompanying DVD of professionally demonstrated skills, this manual works directly with the student, offering a discussion of each skill set along with examples and practice exercises. The manual features 12 practice sessions, each of which focuses on a specific counseling skill set. Many of the essential skills are covered, such as using questions, nonverbal behaviors, making reflections of client meaning, and feeling. But the student also gains practice here with other important skills, such as learning how to deal with clients in crisis and reluctant clients, how to appropriately confront, and how to give and receive accurate and supportive feedback to one another. These practice sessions are designed to help the students recognize and build upon their natural interpersonal skill set as they learn new skills. They will help students become more competent in their use of counseling skills and feel more comfortable and confident in their roles as emerging counseling professionals.

Handbook of Mindfulness in Education

161) Befriending silence in retreat can open doors to a loving attentiveness. I can quiet the noise of self and others so that greater clarity is within ...


Author: Kimberly A. Schonert-Reichl

Publisher: Springer

ISBN: 9781493935062

Category: Psychology

Page: 394

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This handbook addresses the educational uses of mindfulness in schools. It summarizes the state of the science and describes current and emerging applications and challenges throughout the field. It explores mindfulness concepts in scientific, theoretical, and practical terms and examines training opportunities both as an aspect of teachers’ professional development and a means to enhance students’ social-emotional and academic skills. Chapters discuss mindfulness and contemplative pedagogy programs that have produced positive student outcomes, including stress relief, self-care, and improved classroom and institutional engagement. Featured topics include: A comprehensive view of mindfulness in the modern era. Contemplative education and the roots of resilience. Mindfulness practice and its effect on students’ social-emotional learning. A cognitive neuroscience perspective on mindfulness in education that addresses students’ academic and social skills development. Mindfulness training for teachers and administrators. Two universal mindfulness education programs for elementary and middle school students. The Handbook of Mindfulness in Education is a must-have resource for researchers, graduate students, clinicians, and practitioners in psychology, psychiatry, education, and medicine, as well as counseling, social work, and rehabilitation therapy.

Resurrection and Responsibility

If making friends with emptiness means befriending silence? Whereas the Oriental tradition has much to say about silence (!), Christianity has definitely ...


Author: Keith Dyer

Publisher: Wipf and Stock Publishers

ISBN: 9781606084618

Category: Religion

Page: 290

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This collection of studies by friends, colleagues, students, and associates of Thorwald Lorenzen centers on his pivotal research interests--the theological and ethical implications of a relational understanding of the resurrection of Jesus Christ. In two major works on the resurrection, Lorenzen demonstrated the radical ramifications for Christian discipleship of affirming a relational perspective on the resurrection, especially with regard to social justice, human rights, ecumenical dialogue, and holistic spirituality. The purpose of this book is to honor the theological work of Thorwald Lorenzen by examining anew and pressing ahead with certain aspects of his own research interests, whether in historical and systematic theology, biblical exegesis and hermeneutics, or social ethics and spirituality.

Becoming a Praying Congregation

Challenge #4: Lost inSpace Solution: Encourage Befriending Silence Do youknow extroverts who won't let more than a second or two of ...


Author: Rueben P. Job

Publisher: Abingdon Press

ISBN: 9781426702822

Category: Religion

Page: 192

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Becoming a Praying Congregation is designed to help leaders teach, inspire and example deeper prayer life for the entire congregation through worship, study, ministry teams and individual devotion. Using ideas and examples from congregations with active prayer ministries, leaders will be inspired to develop deeper prayer practices in: worship decision-making groups prayer ministry team age-level classes households Tools include: worship prayer activities DVD planning ideas for Sunday School or small groups for children, youth and adults guidelines for building or reviving a prayer ministry team help for special services like healing prayer services, meditations, prayer for the church and its mission Rueben Job's When You Pray can be used as a daily devotional for individuals and small groups participating in the program.

Incline Your Ear

BEFRIENDING SILENCE Part of our journey requires that we slow down and allow time for the Holy Spirit to work in us. Becoming comfortable in silence—simply ...


Author: Chad R. Abbott

Publisher: Fortress Press

ISBN: 9781506465845

Category: Religion

Page: 144

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Incline Your Ear: Cultivating Spiritual Awakening in Congregations introduces faith communities and individuals to the centuries-old principles and practices of spiritual direction. Spiritual direction, as Chad R. Abbot and Teresa Blythe practice and teach it, emphasizes four aspects of the faith journey: becoming more aware of the presence of the Holy in our daily lives, reflecting on that awareness and deepening our relationship with God, discerning where God is leading, and sharing our spiritual gifts with the world. Abbott and Blythe also share simple ways to evaluate the outcomes of spiritual awakening: "fruits of the Spirit." As a middle judicatory minister and spiritual director who work with clergy, lay leaders, and congregations around issues of spiritual life and energy, the authors long for churches to become vital spiritual communities that meet the needs of people right where they are. They strive to nurture congregations where pastors don't have to do it all; where members are equipped to share their gifts with one another; where leaders rest easy, knowing the board has discerned the vision well; and where all discover the rich array of spiritual food Christianity serves. In these complex and confusing times, the authors extend to us an invitation and hope: "Incline your ear... that you may live." As communities of faith study and experience Incline Your Ear together, they will find new ways to be in love with God and listen to the Spirit.

Wandering and Wondering

31. Carl McColman, Befriending Silence (Notre Dame, IN: Ave Maria Press, 2015), 105. 32. Thomas Merton, Echoing Silence (Boston: New Seeds Books, 2007), 56.


Author: Randall Worley

Publisher: Whitaker House

ISBN: 9781629119076

Category: Religion

Page: 192

View: 657

Mark Twain once said, “The two greatest days in your life are the day you were born, and the day you find out why.” But what happens when you know the why but can't figure out how to make it happen? It is this journey between the realization of your purpose and its actualization that Randall Worley calls process. Purpose, which answers why, can be realized in moment. However, process, which must answer how, is not actualized as quickly. In other words, “becoming an overnight success takes years.” Purpose has been a hot topic for several years, capturing the attention of those adrift in a culture of apathy and aimlessness. It is certainly a far more palatable subject in today’s culture of self-improvement than is process, because it seems to offer a free carpet ride from here to there. Your destiny, however, is not downloadable. The dream of your future is free, but the journey will demand a price. Yet it is in the sacrifice and effort of process that God will turn your purpose into a world-changing reality.

Perfectly Yourself

... would have experienced had they not emphasized the importance of learning to be comfortable in my own company and of befriending silence and stillness.


Author: Matthew Kelly

Publisher: Ballantine Books

ISBN: 9780345504784

Category: Self-Help

Page: 240

View: 336

“Just be yourself!” People say it all the time, but how do we actually live it? For more than a decade Matthew Kelly has been helping people discover the best version of themselves. Now, in Perfectly Yourself, he addresses the opportunities and obstacles that we encounter once we decide to ask life’s big questions: Who am I? What am I here for? Focusing on nine powerful and practical lessons, Kelly shows us how to find lasting happiness in a changing world. We all have an insatiable need to grow and improve: Every year millions of us buy books and attend workshops in the hope that we will lose weight, improve our relationships, conquer debt, accomplish more in our careers, achieve financial independence, reach spiritual enlightenment, become better parents or lovers–the list goes on. We yearn for progress. And yet, many of us fail to achieve the transformations we desire. “People don’t fail because they want to fail,” Kelly explains. “People don’t go on a diet because they want to get fat. People don’t get married to get divorced. Whether we are dealing with health and wellness, relationships, finances, spirituality, or career, people want to advance. Personal development animates us, brings us to life. In many cases one diet is as good as the next. One financial plan is as good as another. People are smart enough to work out which are the best, but still so many fail. We have to ask ourselves: Why? “Fundamental to all transformation is understanding the dynamics of change so that we can be aware of the obstacles and opportunities that await us when we attempt to transform an area of our lives.” Kelly teaches us how to find the balance between accepting ourselves for who we are and challenging ourselves to become all we are capable of being. He encourages us to unify the many aspects of our lives, and reveals how to move beyond other people’s expectations of who and what we should be. Perfectly Yourself is for anyone who has ever failed at a diet, survived the collapse of a relationship, or wondered if he or she will ever find a fulfilling career. It’s a book for all of us who long to be at peace with who we are, where we are, and what we are doing, not in some distant tomorrow but here and now–today. From the Hardcover edition.

The Way of Dialogue

Befriending silence can become our way of returning to Being Now and Here. We can also realize that the eternal moment does not stretch out before ...


Author: Ronald Gordon

Publisher: Wipf and Stock Publishers

ISBN: 9781532685125

Category: Self-Help

Page: 156

View: 109

Distrust, divisiveness, and conflict run rampant in today's world. Human relations are strained, communication gaps and breakdowns pervade. Yet whether within couples, families, friendships, workplaces, communities, or institutions across our nation and planet, defending our own positions and attacking those of the "Other" has not solved our problems. Maybe it's time to explore how to communicate together in ways that bring connection and healing. In our stressful era the practice of person-centered dialogue offers both hope and help.

Nell Gwynne Or The Prologue

( After a pause of deep silence , the MARQUIS , BEPPO , and Giacomo , cautiously advance from their place of concealment . ) MARQ . Silence befriending ...


Author: Douglas Jerrold


ISBN: UCAL:B2836945


Page: 50

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Quiet and Solitude Times of quiet on a regular basis can help foster that interior silence that is at the heart of a healthy spiritual life .


Author: Joseph A. Payne

Publisher: Paulist Press

ISBN: 0809133547

Category: Religion

Page: 165

View: 701

A user-friendly volume that will allow busy people to squeeze in some time for a self-guided retreat on a much needed topic: befriending God, yourself and others.

Unteachable Lessons

... Befriending Silence (Notre Dame, IN: Ave Maria Press, 2015) when Rhiannon was in hospice, and doing the research for Christian Mystics (Charlottesville, ...


Author: Carl McColman

Publisher: Wm. B. Eerdmans Publishing

ISBN: 9781467456852

Category: Religion

Page: 160

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Why Christian spirituality must be "caught" rather than "taught." We speak of spirituality as a “journey,” which implies not only a destination toward which we travel, but countless adventures encountered along the way. The journey is the destination—both at once. We may all be trying to get to the heart of God, but there are infinite ways to get there. Can wisdom collected along the pilgrim path even be captured in words, codified into a book? Probably not. And why do the wisest books refuse to offer glib formulas or step-by-step instructions for happiness or enlightenment? Why are the great spiritual classics mostly just an invitation to keep our eyes, ears—and especially hearts—open? Because we’re often stumbling on miracles while we’re looking for something else. Using engaging and disarming stories from his own life, Carl McColman, a leading author of books in spirituality, gently leads readers toward a recognition that although the wisdom of the past is worth reading, hearing or reading others’ experience of God is ultimately no substitute for opening our own eyes, ears, and hearts to God.

Bright Star Woman Reiki Yoga Manual

... befriending silence would become the practice. you When do play recorded music, do so intentionally. There are wonderful conscious musicians and sound ...


Author: Mercedes Déziel-Hupé

Publisher: FriesenPress

ISBN: 9781525577192

Category: Health & Fitness

Page: 148

View: 815

Reiki is a birthright; we are born with life energy, and we innately know how to best care for ourselves, whether our needs are physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual. This Reiki yoga manual is born from a passion for wellness, and from years of dedicated yoga and Reiki practices, independently. The value of each modality and their potential combined power is shared in this practical guide on Reiki yoga. In this book, you will learn how to: - meditate and connect with your own Reiki channel - use mindful breath, yoga exercises and self-treatment to help the flow of Reiki - develop your intuition and a self-care practice - support your physical and emotional body Whether you are a yogi(ni), have an established meditation or energy-based practice, or are a complete beginner who has never set foot on a yoga mat or a zafu, this manual will meet you where you are, and welcome you to yourself. Through Reiki and yoga, the themes presented within this manual provide practical and holistic tools for wellness to conscious women who are busy and looking to reconnect with their intuition, healing ability, and personal power. Whether you are looking to add to your self-care routine or create one from scratch, this manual provides practical self-care that works on many levels and that you can revisit, wherever you are on your wellness and spiritual journey.